To Wives, For The Love of a Man.

1 Peter 3

1 Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, 2 when they see the purity and reverence of your lives.

Colossians 3:18

Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting for those who belong to the Lord.

1 Timothy 2:12

Let a woman learn quietly with all submissiveness. I do not permit a woman to teach or to exercise authority over a man; rather, she is to remain quiet.

Ephesians 5:22-23

Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord

1 Peter 3:5

For this is how the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves, by submitting to their own husbands,

1 Corinthians 11:3

But I want you to understand that the head of every man is Christ, the head of a wife is her husband, and the head of Christ is God.

I realize that this is a very touchy subject for some, ok most women to accept, but I am feeling lead to address it. This has been an issue since the beginning of time, when Eve dishonored God and caused her husband to stumble and in turn changed what The Lord had given them, which was a perfect paradise and the ability to walk with Him. In Genesis 3:16 The Lord says to Eve “…Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you.” See, it all started way back when, because of the choices made by mankind. I am sensing a screaming command for wives more so today than ever.

Too often I see wives fighting for the head of the household role and it irks me every time. To me there is nothing natural about that. The Lord has given our men authority over us, weather we like it or not. If you have made the decision to dishonor your husband, then you have also made the decision to dishonor God. It is time for you to submit to God and to your Husband. This does not mean we are to give in to everything or allow him to do whatever he wants, but We are to respect them in everything. In submitting to him as he loves us (like God loves the church) allows him to see the glory of God. If he isn’t loving you like The Lord has commanded him to, see 1 Peter 3. In honoring Gods commandment yourself to submit to God and to your husband, he may be won over by your actions.

I would further encourage you to pray. Pray like you mean it. If you're serious about it, fast about it too.

Unfortunately, the feminist movement in the 70s and 80s has raised women up and in turn has degraded men in a way. I am afraid that some women think that when their husband is strong, then she is weak, that’s just not the case. Some think that when we champion our Husbands we demean women and that’s not true either. Strength begets strength. Strong women encourage strong men, and we build on each others strengths. It’s not that one gets stronger and the other gets weaker and more subservient. We as women can encourage our men and build them up without fearing that we are become lesser or weaker. When you and your husband become stronger together, There will be nothing you can’t get through as you lean on and build on each others strengths. As soon as we realize that we can allow our men to take up their God given role it will in turn help us, as wives, to fall under our husband out of respect for our husbands and ultimately for God.

Ladies, there is so much joy to be had if you love your husband in this way.

It is not good to undermine your husbands place in God’s plan, especially in front of his children (if you have any). Only speak well of their Daddy. This will teach your littles to love and respect in a way no one else could ever teach them. Teach them through your actions. Actions do speak louder than words right? This is so important for you, your husband and your children to have a healthy marriage.

It is also not good to speak badly about your husband to your friends/family members/co-workers. I’m not saying you can’t reach out to a fellow sister in Christ that you trust, but be cautious and filtered in what you say. When I do this, I am usually needing advice on how to handle my own attitude in the matter. I never want anyone to think less of my husband, so I do not demean him, EVER.

And for the love of pete, Don’t nag him! This is the worst for him. Yet we are so quick to do it and oh so good at it. There is no quicker way to degrade a man then to [nag, nag, nag] him. Regardless of how you think he should be acting or what he should be doing with his time, money or energy. Let it go, and pray about it. Present your request in a loving way. If he declines, pray about it and try again later, in a loving way.

Lastly, We may not understand it, but men would rather be respected then loved. That is why The Lord in 1 Peter did not call us to love him but to submit to him. There is so much at stake when we do not submit and honor our Husbands. Women would rather be loved than respected. It will only be when husband and wife come together in complete subjection to Christ and honor His commandments that a marriage will be complete and fulfilled. I want to encourage you ladies to respect your man. He deserves that. The Lord has told us so.